Wednesday, September 13, 2017

Dr. Zev Ballen - Ending the Blame Game



Rabbi Shalom Arush has identified three developmental stages of spiritual development which he calls: Basic Level One-Emuna, Intermediate Level-Two emuna and Upper Level-Three emuna.  Basic emuna is the belief that everything that is happening to us is coming from Hashem and not from annoying or upsetting situations with spouses, kids, bosses, neighbors or police officers. People that annoy us are simply being used by Hashem to test our emuna and give us the opportunity to grow. Level-two emuna is the belief that everything that Hashem does, He does for the very best and Level-Three Emuna is the belief that everything that Hashem does He does for a good purpose.

According to Rav Arush when a person has developed solid level-one emuna, they stop blaming their problems and emotional outbursts on themselves and other people.  Instead, they go directly to Hashem to fix the problem because they know that He and He alone is the One who sent them the problem in order that they should grow closer to Him.

Think about it - how many people do you know are like this, who never blame themselves or others for the painful, frustrating and sometimes tragic difficulties that they go through but instead see their troubles as a sign that Hashem wants them to rectify something in themselves?